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Years of marriage will sharpen a spouse’s instincts, and we often know when something looks funny. Smartphones, tablets, computers and smart technologies soak up adultery evidence like a sponge. Once suspicions are aroused, a digital track could contain many clues to a possible banter.
When looking for evidence of a cheater, partners can dig a lot by looking at what a person is looking for on the web and social media. On Facebook, you can see each wanted person if you know the secret.
Tap or click here for the steps to view (and delete) a person’s search history on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and commonly used browsers.
Let’s be clear: the best thing you can do is have a frank, honest conversation with your spouse about your marriage. Couples therapy can work wonders, and during this pandemic, virtual tours are likely covered by your health insurance. It is also a good idea to consult a lawyer to make sure that you are not breaking any federal or state laws.
1. Secret messages hidden in audio or photo files
It is an easy job to secretly embed a picture into an audio or picture file. You think it’s a familiar song or a landscape shot, but a scorching pose can be hidden behind the notes and trees.
Tools like OurSecret or QuickStego make this point-and-click work for the casual cheater. The nosy usually doesn’t suspect anything unusual. The files appear to be ordinary. You need to know a keystroke or special code to unlock files.
If your spouse suddenly takes an interest in music or photography, this could be a clue.
2. Special online documents
The most dangerous habit for cheaters is to send photos and videos. These media can spice things up, but they are glowing proof of an affair. Such documents can be used as evidence in divorce proceedings, especially if a betrayed husband or wife can save or download copies.
Cheaters are known to create online Google Docs or Microsoft 365 files that look innocent until opened. The name of the file could be, for example, “Third Quarter Goals”. When the file is opened, the first page appears to be a bunch of corporate speeches.
But scrolling down reveals the real purpose of the file. Simply put, the online document is a clandestine way to share notes, photos, and videos with someone else.
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3. Check cloud services
To keep the images and videos secret, cheaters can also use a particular cloud service. For example, Keepsafe Photo Vault is designed to both store these media files and prevent others from accessing them. Many customers use Keepsafe for business or personal reasons, but if you notice that your spouse has a Keepsafe account and you’re not sure why, you might be on something.
Two similar services are Vault and Hide It Pro, which were created to store photos and videos and protect them with a PIN code. They also work the same as cloud services like Google Drive, Dropbox, Microsoft OneDrive, and Apple’s iCloud, but security is their top priority.
Make sure to step out of the online cloud box. Check out Amazon Prime as this service also allows you to store your photos.
An Amazon Prime membership includes much more.
Click on here for 20 Ways to Get the Most Out of Your Amazon Account.
4. A hidden or locked phone
Many people hijack their phones to protect their privacy. However, most of us don’t hide our phones from our spouses. This gesture is subtle, but it can suggest illicit text conversations. Cheaters often protect their phones; they don’t share their passwords, and they even change their passwords to keep the contents of their phones secret.
Push notifications are a nightmare for cheating spouses because they can show snippets of conversation – from text messages, emails, etc. – which could incriminate both parties. Spotting a suspicious push notification, or even noticing its sudden absence, can be suggestive.
If not, has your spouse suddenly bought a privacy screen for his phone? These make the screen of a smartphone only visible to the person directly in front of the screen. It could be a red flag.
5. A second phone and a SIM card
An easy way to separate two romantic lives is to buy two separate phones. This way the cheater doesn’t get confused and text the wrong person by mistake. The existence of this second telephone is also a handicap, even if it is qualified as a “work” or “emergency” telephone.
Another technique is to buy a separate SIM card, which can be replaced by phones that have been “jailbroken”. It’s a lot of work and unlikely for most cheaters, but if you find a SIM card lying around you may be able to extract its data by plugging it into another phone.
Any new entry for people or businesses you don’t know could be a trick. Call the number and see who answers. It is a good idea to block your number.
Click on here for 5 ways to block or hide your number during a call.
6. Check the phone locations
As we become more and more reliant on GPS, you may also want to take a look at your spouse’s location history. For Google users, the “previous destinations” menu option in the navigation system can track your spouse’s trips; for Android users, the Google Timeline feature (found in the Google Maps app or Google Maps online) works similarly.
If your spouse uses an iPhone, there is a place to be sure to look. Many people don’t even know this tracking treasure exists.
You can find the frequent locations of an iPhone user in Settings, Privacy, Rental services, System services so what Important locations. It takes a lot of effort to disable or remove these types of settings consistently, so if they’re not good, you’re likely to find something.
You may want to turn this feature off on your own phone if this practice scares you. VSlick here to find out how to do this.
7. Find their phones
Many popular devices use some form of location technology, and it’s often easier to turn the service on than it is to turn it off. If your spouse uses an Apple device that’s signed in to a family account and has Location Sharing turned on, you can locate their device by signing in to iCloud.com and clicking Find My iPhone or by using the Find My Friends app.
If your spouse uses an Android phone and is signed in to Google on a shared computer, you can type “Find my phone” in the search bar and the location of the phone will be provided to you. Other services such as Life 360 offer similar tracking.
8. Find all the letters of the alphabet
Cheaters should be dumb enough not to erase search histories on their browsers. If they regularly access dating sites, especially hook-up services like Ashley Madison and AdultFriendFinder, they are likely to think about covering up matters, unless they like flirting with disaster as much as with strangers. attractive.
Autofill is harder to remember. Search engines like Google do a remarkable job of guessing your search parameters, based on everything you’ve searched for before.
If you are sharing a computer with a suspicious spouse, you may intend to type “Megalodon” and instead the words “Megan Granger home phone number” will flash in the field. Go a little further. Start typing each letter of the alphabet and see what pops up.
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9. Check battery usage
On an iPhone, open Settings, Screen Time, and then View All Activities. You will see which apps have been used and for how long.
On Android, open Settings, Device care, and Battery. Among the stats, you’ll see a list of apps used, time used, and total battery usage in percentages.
10. Search the trash cans
Deleted digital items are usually never gone for good. A computer’s Recycle Bin or Trash holds items until the Trash is emptied. Cloud services like DropBox allow you to restore recycle bin items.
Deleted emails accumulate in the trash until it is emptied. Voicemail messages on an iPhone are deleted but they can be recovered. Apps deleted from a phone can also be restored. If you use the services of an operator, voice messages may be available on their site.
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